Thursday, June 7, 2007

Hide The Evidence! Cover for Your Partner

"You make me look great!" That's what I want to hear from my partners.

One of the marks of a superior dancer is that they "cover" for mistakes their partner makes. I can't tell you how many stronger follows have made me look much better than I am. If my partner makes a mistake, my goal is to find a plan B/C/D that makes it look like she didn't miss my lead.

She could miss my lead because she doesn't know it, I wasn't clear, or maybe Brad Pitt showed up in the room and distracted her. In the middle of the dance, it doesn't matter whose "fault" it is that something didn't work; see if you can find a graceful way to get back to the music.

When (not if) something doesn't work, it's my job to make her look good. If the follow is the stronger partner, she can do the same thing for her lead. So many women have covered for my weak leads it's almost embarrassing, but it's part of the growth process.

I'm always impressed by guys leading less experienced dancers and seeing them cover for something their follow missed. I want to be that guy! I'm also very thankful for all the women who have helped me along the way.

Rather than have an attitude about it, learn to enjoy the chance to create something "unique" even if it wasn't what you planned. Your partners will feel much better about dancing with you in the future.
If you live to be one hundred, you've got it made. Very few people die past that age.
-George Burns

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